The red poppy was initially, and is still properly, anything but a glorification of war. The white poppy message to "remember all victims of war" is already included, and the red poppy no longer features the name of Haig.
White poppy money goes to the Peace Pledge Union, a campaigning organisation for absolute pacifism (a cause to which I do not subscribe), rather than to a welfare charity of any kind.
Wear your red poppy with pride. I am wearing mine as I write. Because of what it really means.